A Break from Blogging

In this post I was going to do my usual outfit recap and tell you about how busy my September was, and how demanding my practicum year is. I was also going to tell you that in a very sudden, heartbreaking chain of events, my grandfather entered the 7th stage of Alzheimer's disease.

Instead I'm going to tell you that he died on Sunday night, September 29, 2013. I confused the signs of dying for the signs of stage 7.

My grandparents holding hands. Picture taken earlier this year. They were married for 64 years! Met at 17, married at 23.
So I will be taking a break from blogging. Probably not a very long break, since I heal best when I'm involved in work that I love. But for now my world is upside down and I need all the time I can get for deep reflection and remembrance.

Before I go, I need to make sure that I put this out there.
I've rediscovered this very powerful quote that I keep turning to:
"We are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones. Most people are never going to die because they are never going to be born. The potential people who could have been here in my place but who will in fact never see the light of day outnumber the sand grains of Sahara. Certainly those unborn ghosts include greater poets than Keats, scientists greater than Newton. We know this because the set of possible people allowed by our DNA so massively outnumbers the set of actual people. In the teeth of these stupefying odds it is you and I, in our ordinariness, that are here." - Richard Dawkins
As you might have guessed from reading this quote, I am an atheist. I'm so thankful to everyone who's supported me and my family with their kind words and actions as we mourn this incredible loss, but many people have tried to comfort me with the standard "He's in a better place" or "I will keep you and your family in my prayers." I truly appreciate where these people are coming from, but I also feel rather lonely when I hear these kinds of phrases

For any atheist, agnostic, humanist, or skeptic readers out there: There is this fantastic page on Facebook called "Grief Beyond Belief." I discovered them around 2 years ago, when my grandpa's dementia was beginning to really take its toll. There I have found much comfort in the wise words and grief experiences of other like-minded folks. I highly recommend that you visit this page if you're also nonreligious or if you'd like to learn more about what it's like for nonbelievers to grieve and mourn within a religious society.

So although I appreciate anyone's inclination to include me in their prayers, please know that nothing would bring me more comfort than even the tiniest of donations to the Alzheimer's Association, which does wonderful work funding not only research efforts but also care and support initiatives. Their website is a fantastic place for anyone who would like to learn more about the disease and related dementias. Back in August I organized a team called "Walking to Remember" for the upcoming Alzheimer's walk at Marlins Park in Miami. If you'd like to donate on behalf of my team, or even join it and walk with me on October 12th, please follow these steps:
    • Click here.
    • Select "donate" or "join my team".
    • Give as little or as much as you'd like.
Thank you to anyone who takes the time to donate/learn more about Alzheimer's/ browse the Grief Beyond Belief site. Your support means so much to me.

And thank you to those of you who just learned of my atheism and will not be forever turned away from here because of it.

12 comments

  1. I am so sorry for you loss Nathalie, it's always hard to lose someone, especially when you're not expecting it. Or at least, not expecting it so soon.
    I'm sure you know I'm "religious" although I hate using that word because most people today think of Christians as judgemental snobs. However, my faith leads me to believe in showing love, not hate or judgement. That's not my place to do so anyway. So I hope this comment doesn't turn you away. Sending much love and hugs your way <3

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    1. Thank you Linda. It's terribly hard.
      I was Catholic for most of my life and I've always considered myself a good person. I know lots of religious folks who are truly wonderful people. Like everything, good people come in all shapes and sizes, faiths, ethnic backgrounds, sexual identities, etc. I don't think religion makes one more or less of a person.
      Thanks for the love. I really, really appreciate it. <3

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  2. Oh sweetie I'm so sorry I was wondering why you have not being posting. Like Linda said I'm a christian as well and I will never turn my back on you because you are not. I hope that you remain strong through these hard times. Hugs and lots of love. And I still hope to meet you in person soon.

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  3. I'm so sorry about your grandfather. You and your family are in my thoughts.
    ~Sara

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  4. so sorry :(. be courage. i hope everything will be ok..(sorry for my english)

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    1. Thank you Melissa. <3
      And your English is perfectly understandable! Better than my French, so we're good. :)

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  5. Nath, I'm so very, very sorry. I hope you will come back when you're ready. Take care of yourself.

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  6. I'm so sorry to hear that! I know you don't believe in prayer, but that is the best way I know how to react. I'll be praying but I also will make sure to set aside something for donation as well.

    Much love sent you and your family's way.

    - Tiffany Ima

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    1. Thank you Tiffany. I really, really appreciate that, and I do understand where you're coming from. I was once a devout Catholic, so I get it. And I thank you for your potential donation.. Even if the walk is over, you can still donate to the team. <33

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  7. Loved your blog and will come back for sure! I find it very inspirational...

    Oh, I just started following you on GFC by the way! Hope you come by my blog sometime too! Would love to know what you think about it, and maybe follow me back if you like it? We can also follow each other everywhere else;)!

    These are my links hun <3:
    Instant Milk link
    Facebook page link
    Twitter link
    Bloglovin link

    xx

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